So often we can feel that life is happening to us and we are not in control of the direction that it is taking. We think we know what would make us happy but never seem to get around to taking the steps to achieve it. We lack the motivation to get started or what we do try never seems to work out in the way that we hoped. That is why more and more people are turning to coaching to try and get clear about what would make them happy, and how they can make that a reality.
In its essence, having a coach helps you to work out specifically how you would like your life to look, and then how you can make that happen. Buy it is not simply about writing a shopping list of 'wants'. We all want certain things because of how we think they are going to make us feel. However, research shows us that we can habituate very quickly when we obtain the object of our desire. Whether it be the new job, house or car, within a matter of months we are hankering after the next thing that we believe will give us the fulfilment that we yearn for.
What I have found over the years as a coach, is that what we really want is to experience is a life of purpose, growth and connection. We want to feel that we are fulfilling our potential and feel good about ourselves.
Setting the compass using coaching is a great start in moving in the right direction, but we also need to work on all the different parts of ourselves. As well as the strategies we need to move forward, we also need to look at what is going on internally. Are we carrying negative beliefs, conscious or not, that are going to sabotage our progress? What are those voices in our head saying? These are the aspects of ourselves that really need to be addressed so that we can not only achieve what we want, but also improve our experience of being us.
You may question whether it is really possible to change the way that you think and behave. However, we know that the brain has a tremendous capacity for change through the discovery of neuroplasticity. The ability of the brain to form new neural connections.
And the ability to change our response to events is probably one of the most underestimated abilities that we have as humans. If you can recognise what isn’t working you can change it.
It is for this reason that I spend much of my coaching sessions with clients using a technique called Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). This simple technique is a stress reduction tool that can help you to move through past conditioning and embrace your future.
I offer life coaching and EFT sessions online and face to face in South West London in Wandsworth. Typically my face to face clients come from Wandsworth, Wimbledon, Southfields, Battersea and Balham but the majority of my clients opt for online sessions.
If you live locally in Wandsworth, Wimbledon, Southfields, Battersea, Clapham or Balham and would prefer to have a face to face initial consultation, then fill out the contact form and we can arrange something.