Do you have aspirations that feel out of reach because you’re not sure where to start or even if you can even achieve them?
We all know what it feels like to lack confidence, question ourselves or feel overwhelmed by the idea of making changes.
The real question is: how much is this holding you back right now from taking the next step, speaking up, applying, creating, or allowing yourself to want more?
Finding confidence can be the key to moving forward.
To start, it helps to get clear on what confidence actually means to you. We each have our own way of thinking about this quality. For me, confidence doesn’t mean I believe I can do everything and anything. It means trusting that I can handle what life throws at me, and I will find a way through challenging situations to achieve the result I want. And if I don’t, I can handle that too and I’ll figure something else out.
That might be very different from someone else’s idea of confidence. The stereotype is often the loudest person in the room, calling out for attention – but that isn’t necessarily true confidence. Real confidence is being comfortable in your own skin, clear about who you are, and able to stand in that power without needing to prove yourself.
Confidence is also context‑specific. You might feel confident at work but unsure in how to navigate the dating world, or comfortable in your friendships but anxious in front of a room full of people.
Our lives have many facets – career, relationships, family, health, spirituality, creativity, and more – and our sense of confidence can vary across each.
So, if you were to choose just one area of your life where you’d like to feel more confident, what would that be? Do you have a sense of what it would actually be like to feel confident there? How would you know you had the confidence you’re looking for – what would you be doing, thinking, or feeling differently?
By answering these questions, you’ve already begun to create a vision of how you want things to be different from how they are now. You’re sketching out what “more confident, in your way” would look and feel like.
If you want to explore how to turn that vision into reality, this is exactly the kind of work we can do together in coaching – clarifying what confidence means for you, uncovering what’s been holding you back, and taking practical steps towards the version of you who already lives it.
